Sunday, March 26, 2017

A634.1.5.RB - The Train Dilemma: When no Choice is a Good One!


A634.1.5.RB - The Train Dilemma: When no Choice is a Good One!

How shall we live, as individuals in the face of decisions about right versus wrong? How shall we handle those occasions when none of the choices are attractive? Consider the following ethical dilemma and create a reflection blog regarding what you would do when having to make a choice in each train scenario. Justify your position and create a synopsis of your position and the implications. 



                The Train Dilemma is interesting. One question I have though is why can’t we yell or blow a horn to let the children know they need to get off the train tracks? If there is time enough to push someone in front of the train to stop it, why isn’t there time to warn the children to get off the tracks? This situation seems completely avoidable if the tracks were underground or confined behind a tall barrier that would have sensors that would warn people to stay off the tracks – and why are we manually switching tracks? But since this is an exercise, I’m going to assume that it takes place in a little country town in 1943 where parents don’t teach their kids to not play on the train tracks and all of this is logical.

                In the first scenario, I would throw the switch to save the five children. No one wants children to die in such a brutal way but we always seem to go with the idea that sacrificing one for the greater good is morally acceptable. Now, what if these kids are a gang of jerks who are chasing this other one kid. What if the five kids are bad kids…do they still deserve to live? Does the tortured child still deserve to die? None of them deserve to die…they are children and children can be cruel. Most children grow up to be decent adults so this isn’t a fair judgement. So back to six completely benign children. Yes, I would switch tracks to avoid the five. I would also make every effort to warn the one child to get off the tracks if I possibly could.  Either way, how do I, the lowly switch operator, live with the fact that I unintentionally killed a child?

                In the second scenario, I would not toss some guy into the path of a speeding train to save anyone. That seems ridiculous. Where am I that an old guy is standing next to me while I’m working the switch and I don’t know him? What if this guy is my boss? What if this guy just came to tell me to take my break and brought me coffee? Why would his age have anything to do with whether or not I threw him into this train as a door stop to save six kids? Are the elderly more disposable because they’ve had more time on earth? I wouldn’t do it. I wouldn’t throw the man on the tracks to save these kids. Would I throw myself on the tracks to save these kids? Maybe. I would definitely throw a cow or some other big animal. That would do the same thing in stopping the train. Someone has to do something.

                The third scenario is difficult because I don’t have kids of my own. I don’t have a parental connection to someone like that. I do love my family very much though and if one of my nieces or nephews, or step-grandbabies was there I would not throw that switch. There is no way I could tell either of my sisters or step-kids that I sacrificed their child for the greater good. Morally or socially acceptable or not. The loyalty to family is very strong to me and that’s what I would do. This would be an inconsistency with my decision to throw the switch in the first scenario. [T]hat we should treat two creatures the same unless they are relevantly different, different in ways that justify treating them differently. (Lafollette, 2007) The difference between scenario one and three is that the child is my family. That is justification enough for my inconsistency.  

 Reference:

Lafollette, H. (2007). The practice of ethics. Blackwell Publishing.

Sunday, March 12, 2017

A641.9.3.RB - Becoming a Resonant Leader


A641.9.3.RB - Becoming a Resonant Leader

Read Chapter 6 of the workbook “Becoming a Resonant Leader”.

Complete all of the exercises in the chapter.

You will now begin to turn your desires from awareness into action. Next, compose a reflection blog in the form of a letter to yourself. In the letter, briefly state your personal vision and list at least three learning goals, three milestones for each goal, actions steps for each milestone, and list key people who will support you to achieve the learning goals.



Dear Jody,

Hey! It’s me! You know…you! I want to make sure that you stay on track with the personal vision we started this semester. Just a refresher, that personal vision includes our passions: teaching, literature, writing…books. First step is to look for ways to do these things within the scope of your aerospace job because retirement is not too far away and it is important to have a steady and reliable job that allows us to be financially prepared for the next phase of life. Once retired, we will open a publishing house, virtual and possibly brick and mortar. In the meantime though, let’s seek positions in Boeing that rely more on our writing and editing skills. The goal will be to find a statement of work that allows me to feel more fulfilled and enjoy the last few years of working for Boeing. Once it’s time to retire from Boeing, you and Carl will move again so we can live close to family and work on our hobby farm with a couple goats, chickens, one unruly rooster, some pigs, and maybe even bee hives. We will leave this world, or at least a small part of this world a better place than we found it.

Brian Tracy says that [we] were put on this earth with a special combination of talents, abilities, and personal skills that make [us] different from anyone who has ever lived. Whatever you’re doing today, it’s nowhere near what you’re really capable of doing. The key to a happy and prosperous life is for you to regularly evaluate your strengths and weaknesses, to become very good in the areas you most enjoy, and then to throw your whole heart into what you’re doing. (Tracy, NA) This is all a fine plan…but how are we going to make it happen…? To tackle this, we discovered that our learning style is Direction oriented and Action oriented. You know that where you are at is not where you want to be, you know what the destination is, and you’ll figure out the “big” steps as you go along. (Wessner, 2012) This means that while you know the general direction of where you want to go, you stop short of going too deep into specifics, and that you live largely in the moment without thinking too much about the future or any long-term planning. (Boyatzis, et al, 2008) It would probably be a good idea to incorporate some goal oriented learning approaches to the plan. Let’s tackle one major milestone at a time:

Learning Goal 1 - I will be a writer, the owner of a small publishing house, editing work and helping authors say what they want to say to the world. I want to give a voice to ideas and energy that is positive and meaningful.

·         Milestone 1: Get busy writing again.                              

o   Action Steps: Set aside time every day to stretch my literary skill set.

·         Milestone 2: Start entering writing competitions for feedback.

o   Action Steps: Join a few more writing websites and get more involved.

·         Milestone 3: Submit work to an actual publisher to understand that process better.

o   Action Steps: Research the publishing process. Dig deeper into what is needed.  

·         Key people to Help Me: My Mom, Carl, Chris, Lauren

Learning Goal 2 - My husband and I will live close to family and work on our hobby farm with a couple goats, chickens, one unruly rooster, some pigs, and maybe even bee hives. We will leave this world, or at least a small part of this world a better place than we found it.

·         Milestone 1: Retire from Boeing

o   Action Steps: Get through the next 15 years. Work hard.

·         Milestone 2: Before retirement, research and locate land that we’d like to farm and/live on.

o   Action Steps: Obtain a realtor in the area we want to live.

·         Milestone 3: Purchase property and get started.

o   Action Steps: Begin planning the move and how we want to proceed with hobby farm plan.

·         Key people to Help Me: Carl, Gloria, Donald, Mom & Dad

Learning Goal 3 - I will seek positions that rely more on my writing and editing skills than my ability to make bar charts and analyze metrics. The goal will be to prove myself competent in this work statement and enjoy the last few years of working for Boeing.

·         Milestone 1: Look for different jobs/skill codes

o   Action Steps: Profile on Boeing Jobs site.

·         Milestone 2: Figure out what certifications or other training needed for desired position.

o   Action Steps: Talk to HR, people already doing those jobs, and career development folks.

·         Milestone 3: Apply for positions.

o   Action Steps: Apply for positions.

·         Key people to Help Me: TBD

All of this is a lot to think about right this minute. Please stay focused but flexible to new opportunities. This letter is a guideline to what you feel is your personal vision right now. But we know that life is never predictable – and that’s probably why we’re so much more directional and action oriented planners. We know that life is full of curveballs that can change everything in a heartbeat.
So, stay on the plan, let it refocus you and remind you of your dreams when you feel lost and overwhelmed. Remember to practice mindfulness and stay true to your heart. Mindfulness is not all gloom and doom, nor is it all sunshine and flowers. [S]omewhere in that fuller human experience, we connect and tap into a deeper source of motivation and choice that is more aligned with our integrity, our values and ethics, and our authentic essence. (Su, 2015)



                Love,

                You, Me, Us


Resources:

Boyatzis, R., Johnston, F. & McKee, A. (2008). Becoming a Resonant Leader. Boston, Massachusetts: Harvard Business Press.

Su, A. (2015, December 29). If Mindfulness Makes You Uncomfortable, It’s Working. Harvard Business Review. Reprint H02KQS. Published on HBR.ORG.

Tracy, B (N/A). Personal Strategic Planning: 4-Step Action Plan to Strengthen Your Personal Skills. Brian Tracy International. Retrieved March 11, 2017.  http://www.briantracy.com/blog/personal-success/personal-strategic-planning-4-step-action-plan-to-strengthen-your-personal-skills-personal-mission-statement/

Wessner, M (2012, November, 22) Do You Know Your Planning Style? Mark Wessner. Leadership. https://wessner.ca/?p=1266

Sunday, March 5, 2017

A641.8.3.RB - Personal Balance Sheet


A641.8.3.RB - Personal Balance Sheet

Create a reflection blog that discusses your personal balance sheet that summarizes your assets and liabilities. Use the outputs from the exercises that you have completed in the course workbook and your reflections of those assessments as your guide.

In the blog, discuss your assets:

My distinctive strengths (Things I know I do well and strengths that others see in me).

-          Stay calm in a true emergency

-          Will do anything for people I care about

-          Strong work ethic

-          Can make people feel more at ease in awkward situations

-          Compassionate and empathetic

-          Have learned which battles to fight

-          Focus on the important things, not the urgent things

My potential Strengths (things I could do better or more often if I focused, or things I do well in some situations and could begin to apply more broadly).

-          Better self-awareness

-          Be more strategic

-          Be more patient with everyone, not just people I like

-          Could be a stronger leader

-          Could have a better attitude at work

-          Not take things personally

-          Say “yes” more

My Enduring Dispositions that support me (traits, habits, behaviors that I do not want to change and that help me to be successful).

-          My love of literature and writing

-          That my default expression for people is a smile

-          I listen thoughtfully and take notes all the time

-          I never assume I won’t learn something new

-          Ability to adapt and get along with pretty much anyone (build networks)

It is really hard for me to think about my strengths and in the spirit of full disclosure, my husband helped me with some of these things. This weird self-loathing I have stems from something that happened a long time ago and has done some deep seeded damage to my peace of mind and my self-image. While I’ve forgiven, I haven’t tended to my needs, the residual internal scars and that makes it difficult sometimes to see that I have any strengths at all. However…looking at these strengths typed out, taking an inventory of sorts, helps me see that I am worthy. I just need some help and better coping mechanisms. This class has really helped me see this and how critical it is to being my ideal self. Effective change involves mindful awareness of who you currently are. (Boyatzis, et al., 2008)

All of that being said, if I look at my strengths from a distance, I can see that the events that caused me to feel bad about myself also gave me that ability to empathize with people, to be compassionate. I know what it’s like to feel bad and I don’t want to do that to other people. I’ve experienced pain and great loss so I understand other people’s pain. I’m also not judgmental – I can be snarky – but I would never judge other people because of how they live their lives…with obvious exceptions: murderers, child abusers, rapists, etc. Even so, everyone has a story, everyone has something they carry deep in their heart that no one knows about and yet shapes everything they do and say in one way or another. While these factors don’t always determine how you think and act, they do interact to form the palette of color from which you make choices in life, engaging in relationships, and lead people. (Boyatzis, et al., 2008) I really like that concept. It gives me hope because colors evolve and change into deeper and more dynamic colors when you learn to mix them and use them effectively.

Discuss your liabilities:

-          My temper

-          Get too invested in something – too zoomed in

-          So much self-doubt

My weaknesses (things I know I don’t do well and I want to do better).

-          Linear thinking

-          Defend myself well

-          Negotiate

Weaknesses I want to Change (things I know I don’t do well and want to change).

-          All of them

My enduring dispositions that sometimes get in my way (traits, habits, behaviors that I do not want to change and that sometimes cause me to be less effective).

-          Even though I’m fairly social, I tend to be reluctant to do some new things – I like my solitary time.

-          Sometimes my kindness and compassion is mistaken for weakness – but I don’t want to be anything less than kind and compassionate. People need that.

-          Because I pick my battles and don’t need to answer every question I’m underestimated – but I’m not going to panic over every little thing and I don’t need to be the know-it-all. Been there, done that. Life is too short to spend so much time trying to make everyone happy.

My temper is something I’ve had to control for as long as I can remember. When I threw a fit about something as a kid, my Mom would take a picture of me crying. She would say, “Oh JoJo…I’m going to take a picture of you so we can show Grandma and Grandpa how mad you are about this sandwich having butter on it!” (…or some such silly little kid drama.) She would be laughing but not in a mean way, she was trying to help me calm down and there are a few pictures of me laughing through my tears because it worked. Her ability to see my tantrum as an opportunity to make us both laugh is a testament to how strong my Mom has always been. It couldn’t have been easy! But I tend to still get worked up about things and I need to really work on keeping my cool. For example, this last week I was in a meeting to prepare for another meeting (as usual) and we had 30 minutes for everyone to give their status on what we would be reporting on later. Two of the people took up all of the time because they started problem solving their issues. When it finally got to be my turn…45 minutes into a 30 minute meeting, I had a snarky tone and basically said negative things to the point that even while I was saying it I was thinking, “Ugh…just stop Jody! You are being ridiculous!” I was just so torked that our time was not being valued. I was torked that the facilitator didn’t know how to keep people on track and had allowed the meeting to go into scope creep overload. There was no call for my behavior. I got very zoomed in to those things and could have handled that a lot better.

I wish I knew how to negotiate better. I think that skill will develop as a result of me getting help for my self-doubt issues though. I used to work as a manager of a little flower shop on post in Germany. The owner used to tell us to make sure we were charging for our time because “we’re not gutter girls!” That used to crack me up but you know, I say it to my co-workers now. When they talk to me about things going on I like to remind them of their value…their time is just as valuable as anyone else’s! Why can I encourage other people but seem incapable of taking this advice to heart? According to Dan Rockwell, there is good doubt that can inspire critical thinking and there is bad doubt that paralyzes us. There is no progress with (bad) doubt. (Rockwell, 2014) Questioning our value could actually become a good doubt because it forces us to investigate where that feeling comes from. We may even discover new things about ourselves. It’s when that questioning leads to inaction or demanding guarantees it can be debilitating and bad. (Rockwell, 2014)

My enduring dispositions are mostly what employers consider “soft skills” but I wouldn’t change them for the world. Profound personal change and leadership development are almost always linked to looking at one’s current life holistically. (Boyatzis, et al., 2008) Anyone can learn to build a chart or think systemically about a process with enough coaching and training. But the things that some people scoff at are the things that, when it comes time for me to really stretch my leadership wings, will help me be a more effective leader. I’m able to bring people together and motivate them toward a common purpose, people know that I genuinely care about them, and those things are more important, in my opinion, than the technical stuff. I never assume that I won’t learn something new, no matter who I’m talking to. I always carry my old faithful clipboard and pen everywhere I go at work. It’s important to me to advocate for the teams I support and building that relationship is very important to me. Even if I end up spending 45 minutes looking at baby pictures, that time is valuable in the big picture. If you develop the mindset that weaknesses aren’t really weaknesses, you’ve just broken through your limitations and fears. (Babauta, 2008)





References:

Babauta, L. (2008, September 25) Attack Your Limitations: Turn Your Weaknesses Into Strengths. Zen Habits.com. https://zenhabits.net/attack-your-limitations-turn-your-weaknesses-into-strengths/

Boyatzis, R., Johnston, F. & McKee, A. (2008). Becoming a Resonant Leader. Boston, Massachusetts: Harvard Business Press.

Rockwell, D. (2014, April 26). Seven Certain Steps for Dealing with Doubt. Leadership Freak. https://leadershipfreak.blog/2014/04/26/seven-certain-steps-for-dealing-with-doubt/